Don't Be a Grinch: Protecting Your Children's Joy this Holiday Season

December is a season of wonder, lights, and laughter. For children, it’s a time when traditions sparkle and memories are made. But for coparents navigating holiday schedules, emotions, and expectations, the joy can sometimes be overshadowed by conflict.

The truth is simple: children deserve to experience the magic of the season without adult disputes stealing their cheer. Whether you’re tempted to play the Grinch yourself or dealing with one across the coparenting aisle, the goal is the same, protect the joy.

Tip Sheet: Keeping the Grinch Away from Holiday Magic

Don’t Be the Grinch

• Honor traditions: Even if they’re not your favorite, remember they matter to your child.

• Share generously: Gifts, time, and experiences don’t need to be competitive. Focus on what makes your child feel loved.

• Keep conflict private: Heated conversations belong away from little ears.

• Flexibility is a gift: Schedules may shift. Showing grace teaches children resilience and kindness.

• Celebrate togetherness: Even if apart, encourage your child to enjoy time with both parents without guilt.

Don’t Put Up With a Grinch

• Set boundaries: If the other parent tries to dampen joy, calmly redirect the focus back to the child’s needs.

• Document, but don’t escalate: Keep records of repeated negativity, but avoid fueling arguments in the moment.

• Model joy: Show your child that happiness isn’t dependent on one parent’s mood.

• Empower your child: Remind them it’s okay to love both parents and enjoy the season fully.

• Seek support: If conflict persists, lean on trusted friends, family, or professionals to keep perspective.

Remember, The Grinch’s heart grew three sizes when he realized joy can’t be stolen, it’s shared. Coparents have the same opportunity: to put children’s happiness first, to rise above conflict, and to make December a season of peace.